What To Do When Your Senior Loved One Forgets Your Visits And Calls

Elder Care Seven Hills, NV: Alzheimer's and Seniors
Elder Care Seven Hills, NV: Alzheimer’s and Seniors

When you have a senior parent with Alzheimer’s it can sometimes feel like you’re always trying to figure out how to adjust to their reality. And there will come a time when they don’t remember you, and don’t remember when you call or visit. It can be frustrating to listen to your senior parent with Alzheimer’s tell you that they haven’t heard from you in months when you called just two days ago, or have them tell you that it’s been years since they saw you when you visit even though you were just there the day before. It’s also hard on them. Their reality is that they haven’t talked to you or seen you in a long time and that can make them feel sad and lonely and uncared for.  

You should never say “Don’t you remember I was just here?” Or “Don’t you remember we talked on Tuesday?” to your senior loved one with Alzheimer’s. They don’t remember, and if you tell them you did call or visit and they don’t remember that can make them scared and agitated because they don’t remember it happening. Some better ways that you can try to help your senior loved one remember that you have called or visited are: 

Stickers On The Calendar 

You might need some help from an elder care provider for this one. Make sure that your senior loved one has a large wall calendar or draw one on a large dry erase board. If you’re using a paper wall calendar have the elder care provider make sure the calendar is always on the right month. Get some large colored stickers. Write your name on the stickers. Whenever you visit put a sticker with your name on it on that date on the calendar. That way when your senior loved one sees the calendar they can see the sticker and know that you visited that day. You can also have an elder care provider put a sticker on the days that you call, but use different colored stickers for phone calls visits.  

Set a Schedule 

Make a commitment to always visit your senior parent on certain days and always call on certain days at a set time. That way you, other family members, and your parent’s elder care provider can reinforce the routine that every Monday at 8 you call, and every Tuesday at 4 you visit, or whatever schedule works best for you. The routine of having visits and calls on certain days will help your senior loved one establish a pattern and that can possibly help them remember when you have visited or called. Make a commitment to always visit your senior parent on certain days and always call on certain days at a set time. That way you, other family members, and your parent’s elder care provider can reinforce the routine that every Monday at 8 you call, and every Tuesday at 4 you visit, or whatever schedule works best for you. The routine of having visits and calls on certain days will help your senior loved one establish a pattern and that can possibly help them remember when you have visited or called. 

You can also experiment with other ways to let your senior loved one know that you and your other family members do visit and call. It’s important for your senior parent to know they are loved and that you do visit and call and don’t just leave them on their own.  

If you or an aging loved-one are considering a Elder Care in Seven Hills, NV please contact the caring staff at Compassion Crest Home Care.

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What To Do When Your Senior Loved One Forgets Your Visits And Calls

Elder Care Seven Hills, NV: Alzheimer's and Seniors
Elder Care Seven Hills, NV: Alzheimer’s and Seniors

When you have a senior parent with Alzheimer’s it can sometimes feel like you’re always trying to figure out how to adjust to their reality. And there will come a time when they don’t remember you, and don’t remember when you call or visit. It can be frustrating to listen to your senior parent with Alzheimer’s tell you that they haven’t heard from you in months when you called just two days ago, or have them tell you that it’s been years since they saw you when you visit even though you were just there the day before. It’s also hard on them. Their reality is that they haven’t talked to you or seen you in a long time and that can make them feel sad and lonely and uncared for.  

You should never say “Don’t you remember I was just here?” Or “Don’t you remember we talked on Tuesday?” to your senior loved one with Alzheimer’s. They don’t remember, and if you tell them you did call or visit and they don’t remember that can make them scared and agitated because they don’t remember it happening. Some better ways that you can try to help your senior loved one remember that you have called or visited are: 

Stickers On The Calendar 

You might need some help from an elder care provider for this one. Make sure that your senior loved one has a large wall calendar or draw one on a large dry erase board. If you’re using a paper wall calendar have the elder care provider make sure the calendar is always on the right month. Get some large colored stickers. Write your name on the stickers. Whenever you visit put a sticker with your name on it on that date on the calendar. That way when your senior loved one sees the calendar they can see the sticker and know that you visited that day. You can also have an elder care provider put a sticker on the days that you call, but use different colored stickers for phone calls visits.  

Set a Schedule 

Make a commitment to always visit your senior parent on certain days and always call on certain days at a set time. That way you, other family members, and your parent’s elder care provider can reinforce the routine that every Monday at 8 you call, and every Tuesday at 4 you visit, or whatever schedule works best for you. The routine of having visits and calls on certain days will help your senior loved one establish a pattern and that can possibly help them remember when you have visited or called. Make a commitment to always visit your senior parent on certain days and always call on certain days at a set time. That way you, other family members, and your parent’s elder care provider can reinforce the routine that every Monday at 8 you call, and every Tuesday at 4 you visit, or whatever schedule works best for you. The routine of having visits and calls on certain days will help your senior loved one establish a pattern and that can possibly help them remember when you have visited or called. 

You can also experiment with other ways to let your senior loved one know that you and your other family members do visit and call. It’s important for your senior parent to know they are loved and that you do visit and call and don’t just leave them on their own.  

If you or an aging loved-one are considering a Elder Care in Seven Hills, NV please contact the caring staff at Compassion Crest Home Care.



Free In Home Consultation & Care Assessment

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